Said no lover ever.
If you want flowers
on Valentine’s Day,
buy yourself flowers.
To expect flowers
is unbecoming of you.
You can become whatever you want
without someone else’s attention.
You can become sad.You can become bitter.
Or you can become forgiving.
You can forgive yourself
for demanding so much.
Despite what you may believe,
nobody needs to prove to you
that you are special.
Trail Wood,
2/7
The Empowerment of Self-Love: Cultivating Our Own Valentine’s Celebration
In the labyrinth of human emotions and expectations, the concept of Valentine’s Day often carries a weight far beyond mere celebration—it becomes a mirror reflecting our deepest desires for validation, love, and recognition. Yet, within this reflection lies a powerful invitation: the call to be our own Valentine, to recognize our worth independently of external affirmations.
Choosing Self-Gifted Love
The act of buying ourselves flowers on Valentine’s Day transcends the simple purchase; it’s a declaration of self-love, a testament to our worth that does not hinge on another’s acknowledgment. This gesture symbolizes a broader capacity to fulfill our desires and needs, affirming that our happiness and sense of value are not contingent upon external validation.
The Unbecoming Expectation
To expect love and validation from others as a measure of our worth is a path fraught with disappointment. This expectation, often unspoken, places our sense of self-worth in the hands of others, making it volatile and dependent. Recognizing the unbecoming nature of such expectations invites us to a deeper understanding of self-reliance and the intrinsic value of our being.
The Spectrum of Becoming
The journey of self-recognition and love offers a spectrum of possibilities. We can choose the path of sadness or bitterness, reactions to unmet expectations from the world around us. Alternatively, we can embrace forgiveness, both towards ourselves and others, for the often unrealistic demands placed on love and validation.
Forgiveness as a Path to Freedom
Forgiving ourselves for seeking validation outside our essence is a profound step towards freedom. It acknowledges our human desire to feel special and loved but also recognizes the power we hold to grant ourselves that very recognition and affection.
The Illusion of Required Proof
The belief that our specialness needs to be proven by someone else is an illusion that binds us to a perpetual search for external validation. Breaking free from this belief is a liberation, a realization that our worth is inherent and does not require external evidence to be validated.
The Empowerment of Self-Validation
Choosing to be our own Valentine is an act of empowerment. It is a celebration of our ability to love, cherish, and validate ourselves in the absence of external approval. This self-validation is not a one-time event but a continuous process of recognizing and celebrating our worth, strengths, and uniqueness.
The Collective Journey of Self-Love
While the path to becoming our own Valentine is deeply personal, it is also a collective journey. By embracing self-love and independence in our quest for validation, we inspire those around us to recognize their inherent worth. This collective embrace of self-validation fosters a community where love is freely given and received, not as a proof of worth but as a celebration of our shared humanity.
Summary
Being our own Valentine is a powerful affirmation of self-love and independence. It challenges the expectation of external validation for our worth and invites us to embrace a spectrum of possibilities, from forgiveness to self-celebration. This journey of self-recognition not only empowers us individually but also inspires a collective shift towards inherent self-worth and mutual respect.
Glossarium
- Self-Love: The appreciation of one’s own worth and virtue.
- Self-Validation: The recognition and acceptance of one’s own worth without the need for external validation.
- External Validation: Seeking approval and recognition from others to determine one’s worth.
- Forgiveness: The action or process of forgiving oneself for seeking external validation of worth.
- Inherent Worth: The intrinsic value of an individual, independent of external acknowledgment or validation.
“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.” – Oscar Wilde
In the garden of self, where love blooms bright,
We find our worth, in our own light.
No need for others to confirm our might,
For in our hearts, we hold that sight.
With flowers self-gifted, our spirits take flight,
A celebration of love, in our own right.
Valentine’s Day, a solo delight,
In self-love’s embrace, we find our knight.
We are Space Monkey.
We invite reflections on the journey of self-love and becoming our own Valentine, celebrating the beauty of self-recognition and the empowerment found in self-validation.
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