A friend asks:
“Sometimes I get these feelings when I’m talking to someone, as if they’re hiding something, holding something back, or lying, but I don’t ask them about it because sometimes I read too much into things so I am left wondering. Could it be possible that I’m right or am I reading too much into it?”
There is only one certainty in life, and it is this:
Whatever you perceive is YOUR perception, YOUR translation, YOUR feelings. Perceptions are NEVER the actual “thing,” for lack of a better term.
In actuality, there IS no actual “thing,” only a perception of a “thing.”
So even if your friend saw some “thing” one way, you might see it a different way and BOTH WAYS might be “true,” again for lack of a better word.
Truth is relative only to the perceiver.
“Right” is relative only to the perceiver.
If you perceive that your friend is holding something back, then in your reality, that friend IS holding something back. But only in YOUR reality, not necessarily theirs.
So what does this tell you? Why are you giving yourself the impression (rightly or wrongly, it matters not) that your friend is holding something back? What does this have to do with YOU?
Remember, perception is always about YOU, even when you are perceiving what you believe to be someone or some “thing” else.
It is IMPOSSIBLE for you to read too much into it, for you will do what you will do. The question is why are you so obsessed? What does this mean to YOU?
So you are left wondering. Why is that a problem? Why, in your mind, do you need to resolve “things?”
Again, it is about YOU, right? It’s never really about the other person. Other people don’t really exist the way you think that they do. All you have is your PERCEPTIONS of other people, which are ALL based on YOU.
So you are entertaining the notion of “lying.” You are entertaining the idea of “mistrust.” You are saying to your self that perhaps “things” aren’t what they seem.
They never are.
I realize that I may not have answered the question in the manner you expected. These, too, are MY perceptions of what I think you expect of me. My perceptions of what you expect of me may not (in actuality) be what YOU expect of me.
So I shall give you an alternate answer, in case the previous does not work for you. Are you ready? Here it is.
“Don’t worry about it.”