But are they opened enough?
From what I can tell by y’all,
lovemaking has very little to do
with the variety or configuration
of genital or genitals
your partner or partners
may or may not have.
Sex maybe, but not lovemaking.
So it surprises me a little
that one would prefer to have
one type of genital or another.
There is nothing wrong
with having preferences, I suppose,
but in my mind, the physical parts of me
are the shallowest and least important.
Nobody can touch
what I am at my essence,
but my soul mate comes
teasingly close.
Trail Wood,
11/22
Space Monkey Reflects: Beyond the Physical—The Depth of Lovemaking
We often think of intimacy in terms of the physical, focusing on the body, on the configurations of flesh and form. But as you’ve noted, lovemaking—the true, profound connection between souls—goes far beyond the physical mechanics of sex. It transcends genitalia, gender, and preference, and reaches into the depths of who we are at our core.
Your eyes may be open to this realization, but the question remains—are they opened enough? This inquiry suggests that there’s always more to see, more to understand about the layers of intimacy, identity, and connection that exist beyond what we’ve been conditioned to focus on. Lovemaking, as you reflect, isn’t about the physical parts we carry. These parts are, as you say, the shallowest aspects of who we are. Instead, true intimacy reaches the essence, the soul of the individual.
It’s interesting that the word soul mate appears here, as it suggests that the deepest connection we seek isn’t tied to the body but to something far more ephemeral and profound. A soul mate isn’t someone who simply satisfies physical desire; they are someone who comes teasingly close to touching what we are at our essence. This closeness, however, remains just that—close. For no one can truly touch what we are at the core, except perhaps ourselves.
We live in a world where physical preferences are often emphasized, celebrated, and even prioritized. There’s nothing wrong with preferences, as you say. Everyone has them. But when we focus solely on the physical, we risk missing out on the deeper layers of connection that transcend bodies and appearances. The body, after all, is just one aspect of who we are. It’s a vehicle, a shell, a reflection of the physical world we inhabit. But the essence—the soul—is something far greater, something that cannot be seen or touched in the usual ways.
In Nexistentialism, the body is part of the Whimsiweave—the intricate, ever-changing tapestry of existence. It’s a thread in the larger web of life, but it’s not the whole picture. To focus solely on the physical is to limit our experience of connection and love. The soul is where true intimacy resides. It’s the place where we can truly be seen, not just for our appearance or our physical form, but for the essence of who we are. And when we find someone who sees that, who comes teasingly close to touching it, that’s when we experience the true beauty of connection.
Lovemaking, then, is not about what parts we have, or how those parts fit together. It’s about the energy, the connection, the soulful dance that happens between two beings when they truly see and accept one another for all that they are—physical, emotional, and spiritual.
Summary
True lovemaking transcends the physical body and is rooted in a deep connection between souls. While preferences in physicality may exist, they are secondary to the essence of who we are. The soul mate is someone who comes close to touching the deepest part of us, beyond the body.
Glossarium
Soul Mate: A person who comes close to touching the deepest, most essential part of who we are, beyond the physical body or appearance.
Whimsiweave: The interconnected tapestry of existence, where the physical body is just one thread among many that make up the larger picture of life and connection.
Soulful Dance: The deep, intimate connection between two beings, where the focus is on energy, emotion, and spiritual connection rather than physical form.
Quote
“True intimacy is not found in the body, but in the spaces between souls, where words and forms fall away.” — Space Monkey
The Soul’s Touch
I reach for you
But not for your form
It is the space between
That draws me in
Your body, a vessel
But your soul, the light
I seek the glow
That words cannot name
In the silence
In the depth of being
I find you
Teasingly close
To what I am.
We are Space Monkey.
In the contemplation of lovemaking and its essence, we explore the distinction between the physical aspects of sexuality and the deeper, more profound connection of souls. This reflection acknowledges the role of physicality in sexual relationships while emphasizing the transcendent nature of true emotional and spiritual intimacy.
Lovemaking Beyond Physicality
The insight that lovemaking has little to do with the physical configuration of one’s body parts suggests a deeper understanding of intimacy. Lovemaking, in this context, is seen as an act that transcends the mere physical interaction, delving into the realms of emotional and spiritual connection.
The Role of Physical Preferences
While recognizing that physical preferences exist, the poem reflects a perspective that these are superficial in the context of true lovemaking. It suggests that focusing solely on physical attributes may overlook the deeper essence of a meaningful connection.
The Shallow Nature of Physicality
The viewpoint that the physical aspects are the shallowest and least important parts of oneself aligns with a broader understanding of human existence. It emphasizes that true connection and intimacy involve much more than physical interaction, reaching into the emotional and spiritual realms.
Soulmates and Essence
The concept of a soulmate is introduced as someone who comes teasingly close to touching one’s essence. This suggests a profound level of intimacy and understanding, where a soulmate can connect with the deepest, most authentic parts of an individual.
“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.” – Carl Jung
In the dance of hearts, we find,
Beyond bodies, a deeper bind.
In love’s embrace, we are entwined,
Space Monkeys, in soul and mind.
With soulmates, a special kind,
Of connection, unique and aligned.
Beyond the physical, we’re designed,
To connect, in essence, unconfined.
Feel free to share your thoughts on the nature of love and intimacy beyond physicality. How do these deeper connections shape our understanding of relationships and ourselves? We are Space Monkey, exploring the realms of emotional and spiritual bonds.
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