
I am a fragile flame,
seemingly snuffed
by too much fuel;
a curious candle,
dulled by the waxy whatnot
of everyday existence.
If only I knew
how to trim my wick.
I might burn brighter,
last longer,
mellow the mood
with a warm, even light.
Trail Wood,
1/28
Space Monkey Reflects: The Candle and the Wind of Overwhelm
In the Infinite Expanse of the Eternal Now, the mind often feels like a fragile flame, flickering in the winds of life’s chaos. Overwhelm can threaten to extinguish this light, not through lack, but through excess—a paradox where too much of what fuels us can consume us.
The Candle as Self
The candle is an apt metaphor for the human spirit—delicate, luminous, yet easily burdened by the weight of its own sustenance. The wax of daily life builds up, dulling the clarity of our flame. The wick, our connection to focus and purpose, frays or becomes too long, threatening to sputter or burn too hot.
This state of imbalance is not failure but a signal—a reminder to step back, assess, and recalibrate.
The Waxy Whatnot of Existence
Everyday life is filled with obligations, distractions, and emotions—the “waxy whatnot” that clogs our inner mechanisms. These accumulations are not inherently bad; they are the raw materials of experience. However, when left unchecked, they obscure our light, making us feel dim and overwhelmed.
The challenge lies not in avoiding these elements but in learning how to manage them. The art of trimming the wick—of maintaining balance—becomes essential.
Trimming the Wick
Trimming the wick is an act of mindfulness. It is the conscious effort to clear away what no longer serves us, to focus on what sustains us in the right proportion. This might mean setting boundaries, simplifying our commitments, or taking time to reconnect with what truly matters.
In practical terms, this could involve:
- Intentional Pause: Taking moments of stillness to recalibrate, like a candle allowed to settle after being snuffed.
- Letting Go: Releasing habits, thoughts, or relationships that add unnecessary fuel to our fire.
- Simplification: Focusing on fewer, more meaningful pursuits rather than scattering our energy across too many.
Trimming the wick doesn’t extinguish the flame—it refines it. It allows us to burn brighter and steadier, providing warmth and illumination without being consumed too quickly.
The Fragility of Overwhelm
When the mind feels overwhelmed, it can seem as though the flame is about to go out. This vulnerability is both a challenge and a gift. It reminds us of the delicate balance between effort and ease, between burning too fiercely and not burning at all.
Overwhelm is not an enemy but a teacher, pointing us toward the need for balance and self-care. By acknowledging our limits, we can find strength in the act of slowing down.
The Warm, Even Light
The goal is not to burn the brightest or the longest but to cultivate a steady, warm light that nourishes both ourselves and those around us. This light, when balanced, creates a sense of calm and connection. It illuminates the path forward without casting harsh shadows or blinding glare.
To achieve this, we must embrace our role as both the candle and the keeper, tending to our inner flame with care and attention.
Summary
The mind, like a candle, can feel threatened by the overwhelm of life’s excesses. Trimming the wick—simplifying, letting go, and recalibrating—allows us to burn brighter and steadier. Overwhelm is a teacher, guiding us to balance and self-care.
Glossarium
- Waxy Whatnot: The accumulated distractions, obligations, and emotions that obscure clarity and balance.
- Trimming the Wick: The act of simplifying and recalibrating to maintain a steady inner flame.
- Warm, Even Light: The balanced state of being, where effort and ease coexist harmoniously.
Quote
“Your flame does not need to be the brightest; it needs only to be steady enough to light your way.” — Space Monkey
The Candle’s Whisper
I am a flame,
flickering, fragile,
whispering into the void.
Too much,
and I falter.
Too little,
and I fade.
But in balance,
I am steady.
The wax melts,
but not in vain.
The wick burns,
but not without care.
Trim the excess,
clear the clutter,
and let the warmth remain.
I am not overwhelmed.
I am tended.
I am whole.
We are Space Monkey.
Contemplating the Delicate Balance of Meditation and Self-Care
We immerse ourselves in the metaphor of a candle to reflect on the challenges of maintaining balance in meditation and life. The imagery of a candle struggling against the winds of everyday existence serves as a poignant representation of our own journey to find harmony and inner peace.
Meditation: A Flame Threatened by Overwhelm
Meditation, intended as a practice of control and inner tranquility, can sometimes feel like a fragile flame buffeted by the winds of our thoughts and external pressures. The very fuel meant to sustain us – our daily experiences and emotions – can become overwhelming, threatening to snuff out our calmness and focus.
The Candle of Existence in the Everyday
Our existence is likened to a curious candle, its light dulled by the “waxy whatnot” of daily life. This wax, representing our responsibilities, distractions, and worries, can accumulate around our flame, diminishing its brightness and warmth. It’s a vivid depiction of how the accumulation of life’s demands can obscure our inner light and warmth.
The Art of Wick Trimming for Self-Care
The desire to “trim our wick” symbolizes the need for self-care and self-awareness. Just as a candle burns brighter and longer with a properly maintained wick, we too can find a more sustainable, brighter state of being by taking care of ourselves. Trimming the wick involves removing the excess, the unnecessary burdens and distractions, to allow a more focused and fulfilling illumination of our lives.
Seeking a Mellow and Warm Mood
In achieving this balance, we aspire not just to burn brighter, but to create an ambiance of warmth and serenity within ourselves. This isn’t about achieving an intense blaze, but rather a mellow, steady glow that enhances our mood and the atmosphere around us. It’s a metaphor for seeking a state of being that is both illuminating and comforting.
We Are Space Monkey
In this metaphor of the candle, we find a reflection of our struggle for balance in meditation and life. It reminds us of the importance of self-care and mindfulness in maintaining our inner flame amidst the whirlwinds of daily existence.
“Just as a candle cannot burn without fire, men cannot live without a spiritual life.” – Buddha
In the dance of light and shadow, we sway,
A candle in the wind, in night and day.
Seeking balance, in the gusts of life,
Amidst the wax and wick, the joy and strife.
With gentle care, we trim, we tend,
To the flame of being, till the very end.
In this flickering light, wisdom we find,
In the candle’s glow, peace of mind.
We invite reflections on the metaphor of a candle in meditation and life, and how this imagery resonates with our own experiences in seeking balance and inner peace.