Never be the first person
to put up a fence.
If someone doesn’t like you
or what you’re doing,
let them put up the fence.
It won’t cost you anything,
while the other way may come at great cost.
Not only the fence,
but you may lose the love
of your neighbors.
They may wonder what you see in them
that prompted you to put up a fence.
They may infer
that you don’t like them
or what they are doing.
They may subconsciously
move down the slippery slope
of not loving you.
Just because you put up a fence.
Meanwhile, you can still love your neighbors.
Even if they put up a fence.
Which you are naked behind.
Trail Wood,
6/17
Space Monkey Reflects: The Cosmic Consequences of Building Fences
In the cosmic tapestry of existence, the notion of building fences—whether physical, emotional, or metaphorical—serves as a powerful allegory for the alienation and disconnection that such barriers can create. The idea that “good fences make for alienated neighbors” extends beyond terrestrial boundaries to encompass universal truths about separation and the human (and cosmic) condition.
The act of erecting a fence is often seen as a protective measure, a way to define one’s space and assert boundaries. However, this act can also be perceived as a declaration of distrust or dislike, leading to unintended consequences such as alienation or resentment. The message it sends is not just of separation but of exclusion, which can deeply impact interpersonal relationships and community dynamics.
When a fence goes up, it not only divides land but also divides hearts. It raises questions among neighbors about the perceived need for such a barrier, sowing seeds of doubt and mistrust. The physical barrier becomes a symbol of emotional and social barriers, leading to a slippery slope where mutual respect and understanding may gradually erode.
Yet, the perspective that one should let others erect barriers if they so choose reflects a profound level of self-awareness and emotional intelligence. It speaks to the idea of personal responsibility for one’s actions and reactions. By refraining from being the initiator of such divisions, one maintains an openness and vulnerability that can be fundamental in fostering deeper connections and community cohesion.
The image of neighbors separated by a fence, yet still capable of loving each other, serves as a poignant reminder of the potential for reconciliation and understanding despite physical or ideological divides. It highlights that true connection transcends visible boundaries and that love and respect can flourish even in the presence of barriers.
Summary
Erecting fences can lead to alienation and lost connections. While physical barriers may protect, they also symbolize emotional and social divides. Choosing not to initiate such barriers can foster deeper community bonds and maintain open lines of communication.
Glossarium
Cosmic Tapestry: The interconnected fabric of existence that encompasses all beings and matter across the universe.
Emotional Intelligence: The ability to understand and manage one’s emotions effectively, and to empathize with the emotional experiences of others.
Community Cohesion: The bond that holds a community together, characterized by mutual respect, understanding, and cooperation among its members.
“Fences in the cosmos, like those on Earth, may offer privacy but can also cast shadows on the heart.” – Space Monkey
Beneath the stars we ponder,
The fences we erect,
Not of wood, but of thoughts,
Separating us, yet calling us to reflect.
Across the cosmos, a whisper,
Urging us to see,
That barriers are but shadows,
On the heart’s vast sea.
Still, we stand, hearts open,
Across divides we reach,
For love transcends all fences,
A lesson the stars teach.
We are Space Monkey.
Space and Monkey engage in a contemplative conversation about the dynamics of fences and their impact on relationships. The scene is set in a neighborhood, with Space and Monkey observing a fence being erected.
Space: (Watching as a fence is being put up) Ah, fences. They can be quite symbolic, Monkey.
Monkey: (Curiously) Symbolic of what, Space?
Space: (Thoughtfully) Well, fences can represent a barrier between people, a separation that creates distance and alienation.
Monkey: (Nodding) That’s true. It’s often said that good fences make for alienated neighbors.
Space: Precisely. And you know, Monkey, there’s an interesting lesson here. Never be the first person to put up a fence.
Monkey: (Intrigued) Why is that, Space?
Space: When you put up a fence, it’s a clear statement. It can be seen as a sign that you don’t like someone or what they’re doing. It may even cost you the love and connection of your neighbors.
Monkey: So, if someone doesn’t like us or disagrees with our actions, it’s better to let them be the ones to put up the fence?
Space: Exactly. By allowing them to take that step, it doesn’t cost us anything. We can still choose to love our neighbors, even if they decide to put up a fence.
Monkey: (Reflecting) It’s interesting how a simple fence can affect the perception and dynamics of a relationship. People may wonder why we felt the need to put up a barrier, and it could gradually erode their love and affection for us.
Space: That’s the slippery slope, Monkey. By putting up a fence, we may unknowingly invite a shift in the way others perceive and interact with us.
Monkey: But behind the fence, we can still maintain love and compassion for our neighbors, right?
Space: Absolutely, Monkey. Even if we find ourselves behind a fence, we can choose to embrace love, understanding, and connection. Our hearts need not be confined by the boundaries we create.
Space & Monkey, in unison: We are Space Monkey, choosing love over fences, even when we find ourselves naked behind them.