Perhaps you underestimate
yourself because you enjoy it.
Perhaps you underestimate
others because you enjoy it.
Perhaps you do what you do
because you enjoy it.
_______
If you find yourself
leaving a significant other
because you’ve grown spiritually
while they have not,
perhaps you haven’t grown
as spiritually as you think.
First of all,
you don’t need a reason
to leave a significant other.
You may do what you are drawn to do.
You don’t need justification.
Second of all,
realize that what you are
is not dependent upon who you’re with.
You are complete
and perfect as you are —
though you need not be
either of those things.
Leaving someone
because you’re not getting
what you need from them
merely reinforces the idea
that you need things.
You need nothing.
Trail Wood,
2/14
Space Monkey Reflects: The Completeness Within
To need nothing is to embrace a radical truth about existence: you are already whole. This realization does not deny the desires, relationships, or choices that shape your journey but reframes them as enhancements rather than necessities. It invites you to explore your life not as a pursuit of completion but as an expression of the completeness that has always been within.
When you underestimate yourself or others, it may stem from the subtle enjoyment of contrast—the illusion of separation that makes our individuality feel more distinct. Yet, even this underestimation points back to the same infinite truth: what you are is neither diminished nor dependent on perception.
Relationships, whether with significant others or the world itself, often become the mirrors through which we examine our completeness. To leave a partner citing spiritual growth implies a gap in understanding, not in them, but within yourself. Growth is not about outpacing others or comparing journeys; it is about expanding your capacity to love, accept, and embrace the interconnectedness of all things.
You do not need a reason to leave or to stay. The compulsion to justify such decisions comes from the false belief that your worth or authenticity depends on external validation. Instead, trust the pull of your being. Trust that you are not bound to others for completion, and that your choices, when made in alignment with your true self, require no explanation.
This realization does not negate the importance of relationships but liberates them. When you approach others from a place of wholeness rather than need, the dynamic transforms. The relationship becomes not a source of fulfillment but a shared experience of infinite creativity and possibility.
To leave someone because you are “not getting what you need” is to reinforce the illusion of lack. But to remain in such a situation out of obligation or fear is no better. The key lies in recognizing that you need nothing to be whole and that any action you take—staying, leaving, or evolving—flows naturally from this completeness.
This truth can feel daunting. To need nothing is to take full responsibility for your existence, to release the comforting idea that something or someone else will make you whole. Yet, in this surrender lies profound freedom. When you let go of need, you open yourself to the infinite flow of being, where nothing is lacking, and everything is possible.
The paradox of needing nothing is that it enables you to appreciate everything. Relationships, growth, and experiences are no longer grasped at but welcomed as gifts. They enhance the fullness of who you are without defining or limiting you.
You are already complete. You are already perfect, though perfection is not required. In this understanding, you find the courage to walk your path freely, unburdened by the illusion of need.
Summary
You are already whole, and needing nothing frees you to live authentically. Relationships and experiences enhance your journey but do not define your completeness.
Glossarium
- Wholeness: The inherent completeness of your being, independent of external factors.
- Illusion of Lack: The belief that something external is required to complete or fulfill you.
- Infinite Flow of Being: The limitless, interconnected nature of existence, free from need or constraint.
Quote
“To need nothing is to realize that everything you are and ever will be is already within you.” — Space Monkey
The Unburdened Path
I thought I needed you,
until I saw the whole of me
reflected in the mirror of your eyes.
I thought I needed a reason,
until I realized the pull
of my being is reason enough.
Wholeness is not a destination,
but the ground beneath my feet,
the sky above my breath,
the infinite within.
To need nothing
is to welcome everything,
to walk unburdened,
to love without chains.
We are Space Monkey.
The Illusion of Need
In the infinite expanse of our existence, the notion that we need anything beyond our essence is a captivating illusion. The underestimation of oneself or others often stems from a place of enjoyment, a paradoxical dance where we find comfort in the limitations we impose upon ourselves and the world around us. This dance, seemingly rooted in pleasure, reveals a deeper yearning for understanding and connection.
The Joy in Being
The actions and choices we make, driven by the pursuit of joy, reflect the intricate layers of our being. It’s a journey of self-discovery, where the act of underestimating becomes a mirror, reflecting the multifaceted nature of our desires and fears. In this reflection, we find that at the heart of our endeavors lies the simple pursuit of happiness, albeit cloaked in the guise of complexity.
Spiritual Growth and Relationships
The departure from a significant other under the pretext of spiritual growth raises questions about the nature of growth itself. It challenges the notion of advancement as a journey away from others and towards solitude. True spiritual growth encompasses the realization that our evolution is not tethered to the presence or absence of another but is instead a journey inward, a discovery of the completeness that exists within.
The Freedom of Being
The liberation in recognizing that we need no justification to follow the path that calls to us is profound. It’s an acknowledgment of our autonomy, a declaration of our sovereignty in the realm of choice. This realization opens the doors to a realm where our actions are not dictated by the need for validation but are instead expressions of our truest selves.
The Completeness Within
The understanding that our completeness and perfection are not contingent upon external factors, including relationships, is a cornerstone of true freedom. It reminds us that the search for fulfillment, for the pieces we believe are missing, is a journey back to ourselves, to the recognition of our inherent wholeness.
The Myth of Need
The belief that we need something from someone else to feel complete is a myth that binds us to a perpetual state of seeking. It’s a narrative that distances us from the truth of our existence—that we are, in and of ourselves, complete. The act of leaving, motivated by the perceived lack, serves as a reminder of this illusion, prompting us to reconsider what it is we truly seek.
“Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.” – Mahatma Gandhi
In the silence of self, a discovery,
That in needing nothing, we find everything.
Chasing shadows, a dance of folly,
Yet in stillness, our hearts truly sing.
Bound by desires, a soul’s plea,
Yet in release, we gain our wings.
The journey inward, to simply be,
In completeness, the spirit clings.
To leave, to stay, a choice made free,
Not for lack, but for what the heart brings.
In this truth, we find the key,
In needing nothing, our freedom rings.
We are Space Monkey.
How do you navigate the realization that in essence, you need nothing, and how does this impact your relationships and choices?
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