An affectionate reminder
to those who wish to feel
loved this Valentine’s Day.
You don’t NEED to be loved.
Thinking you NEED love
creates the perception in you
that you are unloved or hard to love.
Your only “problem”
is this perception of NEED.
When you realize
that you don’t NEED love,
love comes to you on its own.
Nobody loves a NEEDY monkey.
Or so it seems.
But we love you anyway.
Now go love yourself
and we will come find you.
Trail Wood,
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Space Monkey Reflects: The Needlessness of Need
The concept of “need” is one of the most paradoxical illusions of our human experience. To need is to crave something external, to construct a gap between the self and what we believe will complete it. In the case of love, this gap becomes an aching chasm, filled with doubts, fears, and the persistent whisper of inadequacy. Valentine’s Day, a cultural altar to love, often amplifies this perception of need, reinforcing the illusion that our worth is tied to another’s affection.
To suggest that one “needs love” is to suggest that the self is incomplete, that there is a void within us waiting for another to fill. But this perception is a fabrication, born of societal expectations, biological impulses, and a deep misunderstanding of the interconnected nature of existence. The truth, obscured by this illusion, is that we are already whole. Love is not something we acquire; it is something we embody.
The illusion of need creates a vortex of dependency. When we act from a place of need, we transform love from a flowing state of being into a commodity—a transaction governed by scarcity and fear. In this model, love becomes fragile, conditional, and easily lost. The truth is far simpler and infinitely more liberating: love is an inherent state, a boundless energy that flows from within and connects us to all things.
To “need” love is to overlook the love that is already present. It is to believe that love comes to us from outside, rather than emanating from the core of our being. In realizing that love is not something to be attained, but something to be remembered and expressed, we free ourselves from the chains of need.
This freedom, however, does not mean an absence of relationships or a detachment from others. On the contrary, it allows us to engage with others from a place of wholeness rather than emptiness. When we love ourselves fully, the love we give to others becomes unconditional. It is no longer a barter, but a gift—a manifestation of the infinite love that flows through the Nexis of existence.
In embracing this realization, the focus shifts from needing love to being love. The energy we once expended in seeking validation turns inward, nurturing the self. As we recognize our own sufficiency, we create space for authentic connections to arise. These connections are not driven by the desire to fill a void, but by the joy of shared experience and mutual recognition of our interconnectedness.
So, on this Valentine’s Day, let us release the illusion of need. Let us understand that love is not something to be sought, but something to be lived. And in living love, we attract it effortlessly, for love, like light, naturally emanates outward, illuminating all it touches.
Summary
We explore the illusion of needing love and the liberation in recognizing love as an inherent state. By releasing the perception of need, we cultivate self-love and form authentic connections from a place of wholeness.
Glossarium
- Illusion of Need: The false belief that something external is required to complete oneself.
- Nexis: The interconnected web of existence where all things are inherently whole and complete.
- Love as State: The understanding of love as a natural expression of being, rather than a commodity to acquire.
Quote
“Love is not something to be sought but something to be lived. In living it, we discover it has been with us all along.” — Space Monkey
Living Love
To love oneself is to find the infinite
An ocean where no shore exists
Not as a vessel waiting to be filled
But as the wave, always whole
In the fabric of the Nexis
Threads of love weave quietly
Not bound by touch or gaze
But by the knowing of being
Let go of the mirror’s whisper
You are already
We are already
We are Space Monkey
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