Sometimes I write to people in the persona of me as them. In other words, I say “I” but I’m imagining “YOU.” Often I never tell those people I am writing to them, and instead create a standalone post like this one.
That way, when they come across my monkey musing (and I have FAITH that they will) it won’t feel like I’m preaching at them or singling them out. The shields are down. And so this is for you. You know who you are.
In reading this, you’ll probably find that there are MANY of you. Including ME.
Love.
Space Monkey
How selfish is it of me
to EXPECT someone to love me?
What have I ever done
to DESERVE being loved back?
What if i didn’t constantly
MEASURE whether I was deserving?
What if I didn’t EXPECT things?
What if I didn’t NEED things?
I might be more likely
to ATTRACT the love
I hold so dear,
because I WITHHOLD it
from my self.
What I might have is FAITH,
which is the SOURCE of real LOVE.
Starting with self love.
Trail Wood,
12/30
Space Monkey Reflects: Faith, Love, and the Self
In the delicate interplay of faith, love, and self, we uncover the profound truth: the love we seek externally begins within. It is not selfish to desire love; it is human. Yet, the act of expecting, measuring, and withholding complicates this natural longing, creating barriers where there could be flow.
The Expectation Trap
To expect love is to tether it to conditions. We ask, “What have I done to deserve this?” as though love were a currency to be earned rather than a force to be shared. In this expectation, we measure ourselves and others, creating a transactional relationship that erodes the purity of love.
Withholding From the Self
When we withhold love from ourselves, we unconsciously project that withholding outward. To believe we are unworthy is to build a wall that keeps love at bay. This is not self-protection but self-deprivation, a cycle that denies the very connection we yearn for.
Faith as the Foundation
Faith is the key to breaking this cycle. Faith requires no proof, no transaction, no measurement. It is the quiet knowing that love exists, not because we have earned it but because it is inherent to being. Faith begins with self-love, a practice of trusting that we are enough as we are.
Love Without Need
To love without expectation is to release the neediness that constrains love. This is not to say we abandon connection but that we trust in the flow of giving and receiving. Love, when freed from need, becomes a boundless offering, a radiant presence that touches all it encounters.
The Mirror of Others
Writing in the voice of others, as if they are you, reflects a deep truth: we are mirrors to one another. In seeing ourselves in others, we dissolve the illusion of separateness. When you write to “you,” you write to “me,” and in this dialogue, we find shared humanity.
The Journey of FaithLoveSelf
FaithLoveSelf is not a destination but a journey, an ever-deepening practice of aligning with the source of love within. It is the courage to love ourselves without condition, the faith to trust in love’s flow, and the wisdom to see ourselves in others.
Summary
This reflection explores the dynamics of faith, love, and self. By releasing expectations and embracing faith, we transform love from a transactional experience into a boundless, unconditional force that begins within and extends outward.
Glossarium
- FaithLoveSelf: The integrated practice of trusting, loving, and accepting oneself as the source of all connection.
- Expectation Trap: The limiting belief that love must be earned or measured.
- Boundless Offering: Love freed from conditions, flowing naturally and universally.
Quote
“Faith is the soil where love takes root, beginning with the self and blossoming into the infinite.” — Space Monkey
A Radiant Flow
Hands on the heart,
I feel the pulse of faith.
It whispers,
“You are enough.”
Love flows,
not demanded,
but given freely.
In this mirror,
I see myself,
and I see you.
One light,
one source,
one infinite offering.
We are Space Monkey.
In the cosmic tapestry of interconnected consciousness, writing from the perspective of another, imagining oneself as them, embodies a profound empathy and understanding. This approach allows for a unique form of communication, one that transcends the conventional boundaries of self and other, creating a space where insights can be shared without the barriers of direct confrontation or the sense of being preached to.
Empathetic Communication: Transcending Self and Other
The contemplation of love, especially the expectations and conditions we often attach to it, reveals a deep introspection into the nature of our relationships with others and with ourselves. The question of whether it is selfish to expect love, and what one might have done to deserve it, touches on the fundamental human desire for connection and validation.
Contemplating Love and Expectations
The shift from measuring one’s worthiness of love to a state of non-expectation and non-neediness suggests a journey towards unconditional love. This journey involves letting go of the metrics we use to gauge our deservingness and instead embracing a state of being that is open and receptive, unburdened by the weight of expectation.
Journey to Unconditional Love
The idea that withholding love from oneself might be a barrier to attracting love from others highlights the importance of self-love. It suggests that the source of real love, both for oneself and in relationships with others, stems from a deep, unwavering faith in oneself and in the intrinsic value of love.
Self-Love as the Foundation of Attracting Love
We are Space Monkey.
“Love is not about possession, it’s about appreciation.” – Osho
In the mirror of the soul, we see,
Reflections of you and me,
Writing in the voice of another,
Discovering the heart of a brother.
In the quest for love, we often find,
Expectations, fears, entwined,
Yet what if we let go, be free,
Embrace love, unconditionally?
In the dance of life, a truth does shine,
Self-love, the source, divine,
For when we love ourselves, we see,
The path to love, open and free.
Let faith be our guide, our light,
In the journey of love, day and night,
For in this cosmic play, we find,
Love is a state of mind.
We are Space Monkeys, in the cosmic dance,
Embracing love, given the chance,
In the tapestry of life, we weave,
Love, the thread, we believe.
Feel free to share your reflections or continue the exploration of empathetic communication and the nature of love!
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