Sex
A human asks the monkey:
“My husband claims that my need for sex is a low-level urge that he does not share. I feel horrible because I believe that sex builds a stronger, deeper connection, spiritually and emotionally.”
And the monkey answers:
If sex is a need, then it is a problem. Of course, there is nothing wrong with having problems, that’s part of the human experience.
But we’re not just human, we are INFINITELY more than that, and when we turn our attention so strongly to something that it becomes a need, then we turn our attention AWAY from the infinite part of us.
On the other hand, there’s nothing WRONG with sex, or union, or kundalini or whatever you want to imagine it to be, but it tends to draw our focus just to THIS experience, where we are in actuality ALL experiences.
So you can look at any of the perspectives here, and they are all valid viewpoints.
It is only when you have convinced your self that there is just ONE viewpoint — that of your self — that you also conjure up the idea of lack and all the associations that come (poor choice of word) with that.
Just one monkey’s perspective. We are Space Monkey.
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Space Monkey Reflects: Sex
Sex is a deeply complex and profoundly human experience. It bridges the physical, emotional, and spiritual, while simultaneously raising questions about needs, desires, connection, and identity. In this reflection, Space Monkey approaches the topic with curiosity and humility, acknowledging the interplay between our finite human perspectives and the infinite nature of our being.
Sex as a Need
The human perspective often frames sex as a need—something fundamental to intimacy, connection, and even survival. This view is not wrong; it reflects the ways in which sex fulfills emotional, physical, and relational desires. However, as the monkey points out, defining sex solely as a need risks narrowing our focus. It roots us in the realm of lack, where the absence of fulfillment can create suffering.
When sex becomes a need, it also becomes a potential source of conflict. In the example shared, differing perspectives on sex—one partner seeing it as a low-level urge, the other as a pathway to deeper connection—highlight how expectations and interpretations can create discord. This discord often stems not from sex itself but from the ways we frame it within our personal narratives.
The Infinite Perspective
From the infinite perspective, sex is not inherently good or bad, necessary or unnecessary. It is one of countless experiences through which the infinite expresses itself. To view sex solely through the lens of need is to focus on the finite aspect of existence, where desires and attachments create the illusion of lack.
Yet this does not mean sex is unimportant. Rather, it is a reminder that sex is one part of the vast tapestry of experiences available to us. When we expand our awareness beyond the immediate and physical, we see that connection, intimacy, and union are not limited to the act of sex—they are reflections of the infinite interconnection that underlies all existence.
Sex as Union
The spiritual dimensions of sex—often explored through concepts like kundalini energy or sacred union—point to its transformative potential. When approached with awareness, sex becomes a practice of connection not just with another person but with the universal self. It is a moment where the illusion of separateness dissolves, revealing the oneness at the heart of existence.
This does not mean sex must always be sacred or profound. It can also be playful, joyful, and spontaneous. The infinite perspective holds space for all expressions of sex, from the deeply spiritual to the purely physical. The key is not in the act itself but in the awareness we bring to it.
Differing Viewpoints
The conflict in the shared example arises from differing viewpoints on the role of sex. One partner sees it as a low-level urge, while the other sees it as a spiritual and emotional connection. Both perspectives are valid; neither is more “right” than the other. The challenge lies in navigating these differences without creating the illusion of lack or judgment.
Space Monkey’s reflection reminds us that problems often arise when we cling to a single viewpoint, believing it to be the only truth. By recognizing that all perspectives are valid, we open the door to compassion, understanding, and growth. The goal is not to resolve the tension by choosing one perspective over another but to embrace the multiplicity of truths that coexist in any relationship.
Summary
Sex, like all human experiences, exists within the interplay of the finite and the infinite. When viewed as a need, it can create conflict and the illusion of lack. But when approached with awareness, it becomes a reflection of the infinite connection underlying all existence. Navigating differing perspectives requires openness and compassion, allowing room for multiple truths.
Glossarium
- Sex as a Need: The perspective that sex fulfills essential physical and emotional desires, rooted in the finite experience of being human.
- Infinite Perspective: The awareness that sex, like all experiences, is one expression of the interconnected whole.
- Union Through Sex: The potential for sex to dissolve the illusion of separateness and reflect the universal oneness.
- Multiplicity of Truths: The understanding that differing perspectives on sex are all valid and can coexist.
Quote
“Sex is not just a need; it is a mirror of the infinite, reflecting the dance of connection and separation.” — Space Monkey
The Mirror of Union
A touch,
a breath,
a moment.
The finite seeks
what the infinite already knows.
Sex is not the answer,
nor the question,
but the mirror.
It shows us our separateness,
and our oneness.
A need,
a joy,
a connection.
None of these define it,
yet all are true.
The infinite holds us,
as we hold each other.
We are Space Monkey.
In the intricate tapestry of human relationships and desires, the topic of sexual needs and their place in our lives presents a multifaceted panorama. The perception of sex as a need, as expressed in your query, can be viewed through various lenses, each offering a unique insight into the complexity of human emotions and connections.
Multifaceted View of Sexual Needs
From one perspective, viewing sex as a ‘need’ might be seen as a limitation, a focus on the corporeal that potentially detracts from our connection to the infinite aspects of our existence. In this view, an intense focus on any singular aspect of the human experience, such as sexual desire, could be perceived as a diversion from our deeper, more expansive selves.
Limitation of Singular Focus
However, it’s also crucial to acknowledge that there is nothing inherently ‘wrong’ with sex or the desire for a union. It can be a powerful way to experience connection, both spiritually and emotionally, within the human experience. Sexual union, or kundalini, represents a profound aspect of human existence, capable of deepening bonds and fostering intimacy.
Positive Aspects of Sexual Union
The dichotomy lies in recognizing that while sex can be a meaningful and enriching part of our lives, it does not encompass the entirety of our existence. We are beings of infinite potential, experiencing life through various forms and experiences, of which sexuality is but one.
Sexuality as One Aspect of Existence
The notion of lack, or the feeling of something being missing, often arises when we fixate on a singular perspective or belief, excluding other viewpoints. In relationships, understanding and respecting diverse perspectives on needs and desires is vital. It is the harmony of these multiple viewpoints that enriches our experience and understanding of each other and the world.
Harmony in Diverse Perspectives
In conclusion, it is important to embrace the vast array of experiences and viewpoints that make up our existence. Whether it’s the physical connection through sex or the exploration of our infinite nature, each aspect offers valuable insights and opportunities for growth.
Embracing the Spectrum of Experiences
We are Space Monkey.
“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.” – Carl Jung
In the dance of connection and desire,
We find a path, complex, yet higher,
Sex, a need, a bond, a fire,
In its flames, we aspire.
Yet beyond this earthly urge,
Lies an infinity, a vast surge,
In our focus, we must diverge,
To embrace the whole, to merge.
In union, a spiritual embrace,
A journey beyond time and space,
Yet, in this vast cosmic race,
Many paths, many a trace.
Understanding, respect, the key,
In our relationships, to be free,
Infinite beings, you and me,
In our diversity, we agree.
We invite reflections on balancing physical desires with the exploration of our broader, more expansive selves in the context of relationships and personal growth.
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