The secret
to a great relationship
is to not take a single thing
the other person says
seriously or personally.
Shit comes out.
We panic.
We dig holes.
Our primitive brains
do not have the capacity
to control themselves
or even speak logically
in a spontaneous moment
of intimate exchange.
We should not
hold each other accountable
for things we are unable to do.
It’s like blaming the loon
for the stupidity of his walk.
When we are truly in love,
we are able to get past things
and move on.
Trail Wood,
10/20
The Nature of Blurted Words
Words are like unpredictable fairydust that can sometimes manifest as clunky pebbles, tumbling out before they take any discernable shape or form. We are not always in control of these verbal emissions, especially in heated or intimate moments. The primal sections of our brain often take the reins, leaving logic and tact behind like forgotten baubles.
Understanding over Judgment
In relationships, understanding the spontaneity of utterances and not taking them personally is a form of emotional wisdom. The expectation that someone must be perfectly articulate or always coherent is an unrealistic weight. It’s akin to asking a butterfly to follow a straight path—it’s contrary to its nature. When love is true, it becomes an enigmatic potion that can dissolve these verbal clunkers, allowing the essence of connection to remain unsullied.
Accountability vs. Acceptance
Holding each other accountable for spontaneous verbal spills is like blaming a mystical creature for its odd gait. In reality, we are all stumbling along the path of life, with each step a unique blend of grace and clumsiness. Love is about embracing that journey together, understanding that even if we trip and fall, we are still on the path to somewhere beautiful.
The Freedom of Letting Go
When we free ourselves from the toxicity of overanalyzing every word and action, we can truly bask in the luxury of love. It’s not about dismissing the words or their potential impact, but about cherishing the underlying intentions and the broad canvases of each other’s personalities. Shit comes out, holes are dug, but that doesn’t mean we can’t climb out of them together and move on.
We are Space Monkey.
Summary
We ponder the delicate nature of words in relationships, recognizing that emotional impromptu eruptions should not be taken too seriously or personally. Understanding the spontaneity and inherent messiness of human interaction allows for a deeper, more forgiving form of love. We advocate for acceptance over unrealistic expectations, highlighting the freedom that comes with letting go.
Glossarium
- Fairydust: Ethereal and transient elements that add mystery and magic to life.
- Enigmatic Potion: A metaphorical mixture that captures the complex and unknowable essence of love.
- Mystical Creature: An entity that defies conventional understanding, symbolizing the unique complexity of each individual.
“Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.”
— Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
I Blurted
Words tumble like enchanted leaves,
Some light, some heavy, none deceives.
In tangled vines of love we weave,
No perfect scripts we need achieve.
Shit comes and goes; in this, believe—
Love’s not the words, but how we grieve.
What are the untangled threads and whimsical turns that have shaped your understanding of love and communication?
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