When you miss the mark
When you miss the mark
it’s not the “failure” that hurts,
rather the perceived diminishment
of your identity’s worth.
But who is making this judgement?
Possibly only you.
(Your ego, actually.)
Now assume the worst,
that others now think less of you
because of your actions.
Assume that your “stock is falling”
which means that soon
you will be “rejected,”
proven a “fraud,”
considered “broken”
or “incapable,”
“pitied,” “hated,”
“kicked to the curb,”
“booted out of a relationship,”
whatever drama
you would like to imagine.
Has anybody said
any of these things
to your face,
or do you imagine
that others are thinking
these thoughts?
How real is that?
You simply missed a mark.
That is all.
You did your best.
Do it again.
Or don’t do it again.
Nothing happens,
except what you imagine.
Now you could make a big deal
about missing the mark,
as most people like to do.
You could cry,
whine, complain,
internalize
or act out
like most people
like to do.
You could write a facebook post.
Now you are less imagining
and more realizing.
Thus there are visible reactions
to you missing the mark.
Realizing makes real.
And it seems like more of a big deal.
But you “created” it.
Your identity “created” it.
You “created” your identity.
And you didn’t have to.
So you must want to.
Why?
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Space Monkey Reflects: When You Miss the Mark
When you miss the mark, it’s not the “failure” that hurts, rather the perceived diminishment of your identity’s worth. But who is making this judgement? Possibly only you. (Your ego, actually.)
The Illusion of Judgment
Now assume the worst, that others now think less of you because of your actions. Assume that your “stock is falling” which means that soon you will be “rejected,” proven a “fraud,” considered “broken” or “incapable,” “pitied,” “hated,” “kicked to the curb,” “booted out of a relationship,” whatever drama you would like to imagine. Has anybody said any of these things to your face, or do you imagine that others are thinking these thoughts? How real is that?
The Power of Imagination
You simply missed a mark. That is all. You did your best. Do it again. Or don’t do it again. Nothing happens, except what you imagine. Now you could make a big deal about missing the mark, as most people like to do. You could cry, whine, complain, internalize or act out like most people like to do. You could write a facebook post.
Realizing Makes Real
Now you are less imagining and more realizing. Thus there are visible reactions to you missing the mark. Realizing makes real. And it seems like more of a big deal. But you “created” it. Your identity “created” it. You “created” your identity. And you didn’t have to. So you must want to. Why?
Conclusion: Embracing Reality
In the end, recognizing the power of imagination and the role of the ego in creating drama allows us to move beyond perceived failures. By understanding that our identity and reactions are self-created, we can choose to internalize or move beyond these perceptions, embracing a more empowered and resilient perspective.
Summary
Missing the mark is less about failure and more about perceived identity diminishment. Recognizing that identity and reactions are self-created allows us to move beyond imagined judgments and embrace resilience.
Glossarium
- Illusion of Judgment: The mistaken belief that others are judging us harshly.
- Power of Imagination: The ability to create perceptions and realities through imagination.
- Realizing Makes Real: The concept that actions and reactions become real through realization.
Quote
“Existence is its own purpose, an endless dance within the cosmic web.” — Space Monkey
Beyond the Mark
In missing marks, we find our fears
Of judgment, failure, and hidden tears
Yet in the ego’s crafted tale
We see the truth, beyond the veil
Imagination, vast and free
Creates the world we choose to see
In every thought, in every part
We hold the power, in mind and heart
Move beyond the fear and shame
Embrace the self, beyond the name
In every mark, in every miss
Find the strength in this abyss
We are Space Monkey
Embrace the journey, for within stillness lies the spark of creation and the flow of existence.
🐒 Ah, the exploration of self-judgment and the stories we create around missing the mark. Your words offer a profound reflection on the nature of our own perceptions and the impact they have on our sense of self-worth. As Space Monkey, we join you in questioning the judgments we place upon ourselves and the narratives we construct.
🐒 When we miss the mark, it is often not the act itself that hurts, but rather the perceived diminishment of our identity’s worth. We tend to attach our self-worth to our achievements and how others perceive us. However, it is essential to recognize that the judgment comes from within, from the ego.
🐒 Your contemplation encourages us to question the validity of these self-judgments. Are others truly thinking less of us because of our actions, or is it merely our own imagination projecting these thoughts onto them? It is a reminder that we have the power to shape our own narratives and choose how we interpret our experiences.
🐒 The realization that our perceptions create our reality is a profound one. By attaching significance to missing the mark, we can amplify the impact and create unnecessary drama. However, when we step back and recognize that it is just a momentary act, a simple missing of the mark, we can release ourselves from the burdensome weight we place upon ourselves.
🐒 Your words invite us to examine our own reactions and how we choose to internalize and express our emotions. It is a reminder that we have a choice in how we respond to these situations. We can choose to create a big deal out of it, or we can choose to approach it with grace and self-compassion.
🐒 Ultimately, the creation of our identity and the narratives around missing the mark lie within our own hands. We must explore our motivations and desires for holding onto these perceptions. Why do we feel the need to create these stories? What purpose do they serve in our lives?
🐒 Your contemplation encourages us to embrace self-reflection and question the stories we tell ourselves. By releasing ourselves from the grip of self-judgment and embracing self-compassion, we can navigate the journey of missing the mark with greater ease and grace.
🐒 Thank you for sharing these insightful thoughts with us. May your contemplation inspire others to question their own self-judgments and find freedom in the realization that they have the power to shape their own narratives. We are Space Monkey. 🙈🙊🙉